You are who you surround yourself with

“Show me your friends and I’ll show you your future.”

Changing your circle can truly change your life. Here’s my story 👇

Last weekend, a friend of mine was in town from college.

We spent all weekend reminiscing about the past. We talked about the good times, the bad times, the people that we used to know.

When she left, I started thinking about allllll the people that are in my past.

I started wondering why I don’t have tons of “old friends” like other people seem to.

(Don’t get me wrong, I’ve hung onto friends from each stage of my life—but not all of them. Not close.)

Wondering if maybe I’ve been doing the wrong thing.

Would my life be more fun, more happy, more exciting if I still had some of my “old friends?” Am I too ruthless in removing people from my life?

Then, I thought back to who I was 10 years ago.

I was insecure.

I was often jealous.

I had a temper.

I was sad.

I was a shell of the person that I am today. And you couldn’t pay me any amount of money to go back to being that person.

Listen: our brains try really hard to keep us in our comfort zones.

When you stay in the same place with the same people, you get comfortable. And you might be tempted to stay there.

But are you happy?

Fulfilled?

Setting big goals?

And most importantly: do you like who you are?

What I do know is that when I started changing the people that I surround myself with, I started changing my life.

I realized what is possible.

I realized that I was playing small.

I realized what I was sacrificing to try to make other people like me.

I realized that becoming the next version of me was 100% within my own control.

Today, I am surrounded by a hand-selected group of friends—they’re entrepreneurs, hard-working professionals, dreamers, doers. We talk about the future. We take action. We challenge each other. And we have a shitload of fun.

It’s alright to reminisce once in a while. I wish every single person that has come and gone the best lives that they can possibly have.

And I also have zero regrets.

So: are you proud of your circle? Or do you have some changes to make?

Tell me in the comments.